I know, lots of women count on feelings than logic. It’s cliché, everyone knows. Of course we are, our hormones do complicate us more than it complicate men. But let’s being realistic. You women must be having lots of love issues from dating a wrong guy, trusting false affections, hoping too much on men, etc. Those things.. Should be a warning for us to be more careful with, haha, those Cassanovas around us, ladies. What I wanna tell you from this writings, is that you should leave that guy, who makes you wait, or doesn’t text you back, or come and go as he please–IMMEDIATELY. I mean, come on, we’re on our 20th and we’re not wasting time for the wrong men like ever again. It’s not the time to play anymore. We should be an assertive woman who takes the lead, who makes the decisions, cause.. Call me cliché once more but fck it, there’s a lot of guy on the line!
And, please. You can not live with only love, but slap me in the ass if I’m wrong, we need a settled man for our lives. Not the rich one, but at least, he’s responsible enough with he’s own life. For example? Like graduating he’s college! Cause he knows that education is a big matter on carrier life, in this competitive era. Haha, you can call me naïve. You may have your own justification that maybe there’s some people who is not graduated, is capable to have a big company because they are smart in a tactical practice. Or in other side, there might be a graduated man who becomes a taxi driver. Come on! Those kind, of justifications, is just 2 of 10 in reality. In the other hand, your justification is just a minor.
My Dad said, “A responsible man, should have everything to make them a successful person in the relationship to The Up Above, in his family, and his own life. To take pray 5 times a day, is a responsible. To finish the college, is a responsible. To make his life enough and has some savings for the future, is a responsible. To work for his parents and siblings, is a responsible. To keep his appearance nice and clean, is a responsible.” And many more. Yes, I got his point. It’s not only taking us home after movie night. Or being faithful by dating us for years without cheating. Or whatever. It’s way mooore bigger than that.. An additional to me, he should keep his privacy. Not because he’s keeping a bad secret. But keeping his privacy, is the way of someone respects himself. That’s what gentlemen do. And that’s what I learned lately. Of course, with some sense of humor too (giggling). And the one that match our souls. It’s not easy to find. Damn girl, for two times I would say that fall in love is hard. If it’s easy, then it will go awayeasily.
Be in love, with a responsible man. If you’re having a crush or maybe dating someone who is not responsible for himself (YET), you should start to think where the relationship will go. Don’t have a relationship with only based on love or because you are scared to be lonely, or whatever.
I’m saying this, just to be realistic. Not to offend men, nor women. I don’t know my destiny either. Not yet. But I guess, some sort of lessons could be a handbook to step aside to the better place in the future and knows what we want and need the most in marrying someone.